Political Wife: The Toughest Job You’ll Ever Love, or Never Love?
As readers of Citizen Jane Politics know, CJP is fascinated by political wives. As this generation of male politicians has come of age, we couldn’t help but notice how many of their wives are brainy, beautiful, incredibly accomplished in their own right, and stuck in a job that seems like a being a cross between Donna Reed and Scott Reed.But the toughest part of the job is as old as time- political wives having to “stand by their man” when the worst happens.
Since John Edwards’ affair became public, we’ve thought a great deal about what unites the women who unite behind the men who have embarrassed them so publicly. In addition to their private emotions, which we’ll never know, we’ve come up with a few common themes that define their public lives:
- Many have given up their careers for his. Silda Spitzer is a Harvard-trained lawyer; Hillary Clinton went to Yale Law; Wendy Vitter graduated from Tulane Law and became Chief of Trials for the New Orleans D.A.; Elizabeth Edwards was a successful lawyer in private practice before stepping back to raise her family.
- They’re as much a part of the political persona as he is. Many of these women are, ironically, their husband’s closest advisers; Hillary Clinton was only the most public. Think of it as a company the couple started together named “Senator X.” The women leaving their husbands would be like the C.O.O. quitting if the C.E.O. stole from their shareholders.
- Their platforms come from him. Elizabeth Edwards became a vocal proponent for universal health care in 2008; HRC had a running start for the Senate and the White House by 2000. Sadly, it’s easier to fight for a cause as a First Lady than as an ex-wife.
- And finally, they’re preserving their families for as long as possible. Dina McGreevey, the ex-wife of former New Jersey governor Jim McGreevey (above left), said she stood by her husband at a press conference when he announced he was gay because she wanted her daughter to know she’d supported her father when he needed it most. The McGreevey’s have since divorced, but her instinct to circle the family wagons at the greatest time of crisis is a regular refrain in the life of a scandal.
Of course, anything can happen once these women have a chance to leave the public eye. After all, Tammy Wynette’s other hit in 1968, in addition to “Stand by Your Man,” was “D-I-V-O-R-C-E.”



